Off late when I done
with a meeting at Hyderabad, couple of young guys surrounded me with questions/counselling
on love. One of them is doing 3rd year B.Tech and in love with a
girl and wanted me to pray for their love to get succeed in marriage. I asked
him if god asks you to leave will you leave the girl and the response was a BIG
NO, added he said she is also a Christian.
The problem with us is, we ask
questions with a prejudice moral standard according to each one’s opinion. We don’t
actually touch the root of the problem. We draw a circle and wanted god to come
into that. We do not want to fall into god’s moral principle which is the word
of god. We take scriptures according to our convenience and understand it from
the excerpts and not by the whole context of the bible.
Why don’t we fall in love with an amputee men/women or a peculiar
physical appearance men/women. Scholars,
Psychologist says 57% of men, 45% of women — said that they are less attracted
to their partner when they don’t take care of their appearance. Here the world
always pays attention to their physical appearance and most of the women are gets
attracted to Men sense of humor, character and intelligence rather than the
physical statures & attires. Beauty is vain but a woman that fears the lord
shall be praised says Solomon in proverbs.
One may ask is it wrong to fall in love with a beautiful girl or a boy,
well god has designed each one of us beautiful in his own ways in uniqueness. We
would get attracted to the opposite sex especially when it is beautiful, and of
course it is very imperative to understand that he has given the sense to
discern the good & bad, beautiful & ugly etc... So when we see some
beautiful creations in this world we admire them and exalt the beauty and splendour
of the lord creation. However seeking to own all the beautiful things we observe
for own possession is something to ponder upon. The NIV translation says I have
the right to do anything," you say--but not everything is beneficial.
"I have the right to do anything"--but not everything is constructive.
Having said the above, falling in
love with a person is to get united with them for a lifelong relationship/commitment
and it shouldn’t be based only on the physical statures alone. If we quickly
set our mind by our immediate attraction and makes a decision to marry her/him
then soon we would end up breaking our life at the mid-air as the beauty would
fade away. Only the character last longer which can be seen or get only through
the demonstration or understanding of God’s love. Because No love is greater
than god’s Love and it is very imperative to draw our line from it.
Paul quotes to Corinthians people - But now
indeed there are many members, yet one body. And the eye cannot say to the
hand, “I have no need of you”; nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need
of you.” No, much rather, those members of the body which seem to be weaker are
necessary. And those members of the body which we think to be less honorable,
on these we bestow greater honor; and our unpresentable parts have greater
modesty, but our presentable parts have no need. But God composed the body,
having given greater honor to that part which lacks it, that there should be no
schism in the body, but that the members should have the same care for one
another. And if one member suffers, all
the members suffer with it; or if one member is honored, all the members
rejoice with it. Now we are the body of Christ and he is the Head of all.
So how a love is
defined or can be measured? I believe the only the way love can be defined is
through the cross where he died for us and rose again on the 3rd day;
from there the love takes the precedence and grows in human beings. For god so
love the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him
shall not perish, but have everlasting life and it didn’t stop from there, it
goes on saying from the books of romans, For scarcely for a righteous man will
one die; yet perhaps for a good man someone would even dare to die. But God demonstrates His own love toward us,
in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Of course everyone has the rights
to choose their own partner, so when we choose our partner these are the
questions we should ask for;
o Is
he/she meeting my spiritual standard
o Is
he/she meeting my education
o Is
he/she meeting my society/cultural realm
o As
a last resort we can look for the physical appearance and of course it do matter’s
and not to be ignored totally.
Do not be unequally yoked
together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with
lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? You cannot tie a
donkey and an ox together to plough the field as both will try to go in
different directions.
Marriage is a sacred commitment
before god, one should handle it very sincerely as it is very vulnerable.
Get your acceptance from your
parents and move on. Be Blessed
In his
service,
Wilson
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Ref:
Prov31:30,John3:16,I
cor 10:23,Rom 5:7-9,I Cor 12: 21-25,IICor 6: 14
